Free Leadership Lesson Thursday – Tempted

Genesis 39:6-12

 So he left all that he had in Joseph’s charge, and because of him he had no concern about anything but the food he ate.

Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. And after a time his master’s wife cast her eyes on Joseph and said, “Lie with me.” But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Behold, because of me my master has no concern about anything in the house, and he has put everything that he has in my charge. He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” And as she spoke to Joseph day after day, he would not listen to her, to lie beside her or to be with her.

But one day, when he went into the house to do his work and none of the men of the house was there in the house, she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand and fled and got out of the house.

(Genesis 39:6-12 ESV)

 

The Point

Leaders are often tempted to step outside of their Stewardship.  It usually comes in two forms:  Money and Sex.  Both will destroy you, your family, and your ministry.

 

Teach It

The past few years has seen many promanent Christian leaders fall to sexual sin.

Temptation will befall every Christian leader; there is no way to avoid it.

Joseph did the right thing:  He ran.

Finally, after saying no and even fleeing from the temptation, which is exactly what he should have done, his temptress concocted a story to humiliate him.

Joseph found himself in a bad situation that he had no control over because he was a slave.  His fate was completely in his masters’ hands.

We can handle temptation differently.

  • We can completely flee the scene.  Joseph had to go back every day, we don’t have to.
  • We can tell someone.  Joseph had no one to turn to, but we can let someone know what is going on.
  • We can never flirt back with any temptation.  Give it an inch and you’ll go a mile.  Temptation is a slippery slope.

Joseph ended up losing everything God had given him because of one woman.  While it was no fault of his own, it shows just how badly things can go wrong when you can’t get out of a situation where you are tempted to sin.

You can lose you job, your ministry, your family; you could even go to jail.

 

Discussion Questions

If you have an open group, talk about a time that you fell to some temptation and paid a price for it.  After sharing, have your students talk about the same thing.

Talk about different Christian leaders that have fallen in some scandal in the last few years.  They aren’t hard to find on the internet.

What is different when a leader falls to a temptation and sins?   Why is it more serious when it happens to a leader than to a person who isn’t?

How should we handle leaders who have sinned?  What should your personal response be?  What should the organization’s response be?

 

Activity

Discuss the incident between King David and Bathsheba.

First, what happened?

How could King David have avoided the whole situation?

How was David’s sin found out?

What were the ramifications of David and Bathsheba’s sin?

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One Question Wednesday – Honored

Welcome to One Question Wednesdays.

Today all we want to do is offer you a question that will help your students grow closer to Jesus, learn more about themselves, and develop the gift and calling of leadership that God has given them.

Use this question as a prompt for a devotion, an introduction to a lesson, or as a discussion topic whenever you meet with your students collectively or individually.  These questions make great mentoring prompts.

Make sure you ask yourself this question as well.  You never know what God is looking to do in your heart today.

Today’s Question is:

Is God Honored By Your Actions?

This is a toughy.  Of course God isn’t honored in everything we do.  We all sin.  But we should be living a life that God is honored by:  in the way we live, talk, work, worship, and even confess our sins.

In the end, we all have to look at ourselves and measure our actions by the standard of God.

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3 Ways to Teach Leadership (With or Without a Leadership Team)

I know that some of you can’t have a leadership team.  For whatever reason, be it financial, size, or church focus, you just don’t have the ability to have a leadership team at this time.

So you read this stuff about leadership, and like Pavlov’s dog when it hears a bell, you start to drool, only there’s no treat at the end.

It has to be frustrating, not being able to do something you know would benefit your students, your ministry, and the Kingdom.

Before you go and get despairing, know that there are ways to teach leadership without having a leadership team.  In fact, there are many ways.

What you have to remember is that you don’t have to have a program to teach leadership, you don’t have to have a lot of money, and you don’t need many students.

What you do need is a God-given burden for the next generation of Christian leaders, and the will and drive to see it through.

Here’s how:

Mentor

Really, all you need is one student that feels a call into leadership or that you see promise in.  Far from being a leadership program, mentoring is a relationship where you teach by example and do life together.  I honestly prefer this method to any other, but mentoring is hard to do with a large group of students.

Model

You want to grow great leaders in your youth group?  Be a great leader.  We already know that young people are going to learn from what we do and not just what we teach; why not teach leadership by being open, honest, and transparent about our leadership process and motives?

Inclusion

Just because you don’t have a leadership team doesn’t mean you can’t include your students in the leadership process.  Let them make decisions, give them responsibility, and let them take the lead.  Being leaders will of course teach them leadership.

You don’t have to have a leadership team to teach leadership to young people.  With some ingenuity, energy, and willing students you can foster leadership in your youth.

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One Question Wednesday – Possessions

Welcome to One Question Wednesdays.

Today all we want to do is offer you a question that will help your students grow closer to Jesus, learn more about themselves, and develop the gift and calling of leadership that God has given them.

Use this question as a prompt for a devotion, an introduction to a lesson, or as a discussion topic whenever you meet with your students collectively or individually.  These questions make great mentoring prompts.

Make sure you ask yourself this question as well.  You never know what God is looking to do in your heart today.

Today’s Question Is:

Are you honoring God with all of your possessions?

It’s pretty easy to put money in the offering plate on Sunday and think that we’re tithing.  What we must remember is that the Israelites were commanded to give God the first of everything; money, food, possessions, and livestock.

Today it would seem that the idea of tithing is more complicated, but is it?  While our local pastor may not be cool with accepting the first of our garden produce, we can still honor God with everything that we have.  From donating, sharing with friends, family, and the church, and using what we have to advance the kingdom, a young Christian leader will honor God with everything that they have.

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Experience

My family has a friend who is good at everything he does.  Not only that, but he’s done a lot.  He’s been a hunting guide, and currently heads up an ER in South Dakota.  He farms, ranches, and does relief work among the Native American Reservations around his hometown.

The key to this man’s life, in my opinion, is that he’s never been afraid to try new things.  Our students could learn something from this.  New experiences are often scary, and it takes a fair amount of courage to do them.  But, the payoff is huge.

Experience is an amazing thing.  Even if we’re never meant to do something full-time, or even part-time, the experience gained by trying something new can bleed over to other parts of our lives, and will often come to mind as we continue on our life’s journey.  A wealth of experiences makes us better at what we do.  It gives us a broader picture of the world.  It gets us out of our comfort zone and lets us see the world as other people see it.

A while back, I took my leadership team on a bus ride.  We live in a small country town, and none of the leadership team had ever ridden mass transportation before.  So, on a Saturday morning, we took a bus through a nearby metropolitan area just for the experience.  It was definitely an experience.  We had a cracked-out guy badmouthing Jesus on the bus, got to meet some new people, and got a great tour of the city on top of that.  Afterward we talked about people who had to ride the bus everyday and how they could be ministered to.  All in all, it was a good day, if even a little scary at times.

Experiencing new and different things also gives us more clarity in our own calling.  Many times I’ve tried something new and remarked afterward “I know for sure that I’m not supposed to be doing that”.  New things help us focus and realize what we’re good at.

So how do we incorporate this knowledge into our leadership teams?  Well…

  1. Help students face their fears by trying things they never have.  Public speaking, song leading, and other duties around the church are a good way to start.  Keep it up by taking them places they’ve never been, and seeking out activities that your students have never done.
  2. Cross-Train.  Have students share what they are good at with the other members of the team.  Have your students participate in the activities of the other team members.  This draws your leadership team closer and lets everyone have some new experiences.
  3. Send your students through as much training as you can.  Make sure it’s varied.  Twenty conferences on preaching are just going to bore your students (except those called to preach).  Your students might be bored at one or two training sessions, but they’ll have some information to call upon in the future as they work with people who are called in that field.
  4. Thoroughly debrief each experience your students have.  Help them to assimilate their new knowledge or experience into a broader network of information and experiences.  Contrast, compare, and synthesize this new experience to help them remember its lessons.

You’ll have to work hard to expose your students to new experiences, but it’s worth the strain.  You’ll probably learn a few things as well.  Don’t be afraid to get out there and show your students the world.  They’ll need that knowledge to be effective leaders.

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One Question Wednesday – What are You?

Welcome to One Question Wednesdays.

Today all we want to do is offer you a question that will help your students grow closer to Jesus, learn more about themselves, and develop the gift and calling of leadership that God has given them.

Use this question as a prompt for a devotion, an introduction to a lesson, or as a discussion topic whenever you meet with your students collectively or individually.  These questions make great mentoring prompts.

Make sure you ask yourself this question as well.  You never know what God is looking to do in your heart today.

Today’s Question:

What does it mean to be a Christian leader?

Maybe we should have asked this one first.  That’s all right, though.  Let’s bust some preconceived notions about what it means to be a Christian leader.  Is it just a leader that’s also a Christian?  Do Christian leaders behave a certain way?  Is it different from regular leaders?

Our students should know these things or at least be thinking about them.

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Free Leadership Lesson Thursday – Strange Success

Strange Success

Genesis 39:2

The LORD was with Joseph, and he became a successful man, and he was in the house of his Egyptian master.
(Genesis 39:2 ESV)

The Point

God can bring about “success” in any situation.

Teach It

God doesn’t define success the same way that we do.

We would never think of a slave as being successful, but that’s what Joseph was and success is what the bible says God gave him.

No matter how successful Joseph was at being steward of Potiphar’s household, he would never be rich or famous.  He would never be widely known as a premier household manager of his day.

No matter how good Joseph was, he would never be anything more than a slave.

Joseph’s success wasn’t based on how rich he was, how powerful he was, or how well known he was.  His success was based on obedience to God and how he did the jobs that he was given.

What’s the difference between our definition of success and God’s?  Our definition of success is based on a comparison between other people.  success is having more money, more power, or a better position than “that person” or “those people.”

God’s definition of success has only to do with us and Him.

We can see Joseph as successful because he did well the things he was given to do and stayed faithful to God as he did them.

 

Discussion Questions

Name some successful people.  What makes each of them successful?

How do you define success?  According to your definition, was Jesus a success?

What do you believe that you would have to do to consider yourself successful?

How does God view success?

Why do you think God views success that way?

 

Activity

Below are the names of several people from the bible that God considered successful.  Talk about how each of them were successful according to God or our culture.

Jesus

Ezekiel

John the Baptist

Paul

Stephen

David

Saul

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One Question Wednesday – Last

Welcome to One Question Wednesdays.

Today all we want to do is offer you a question that will help your students grow closer to Jesus, learn more about themselves, and develop the gift and calling of leadership that God has given them.

Use this question as a prompt for a devotion, an introduction to a lesson, or as a discussion topic whenever you meet with your students collectively or individually.  These questions make great mentoring prompts.

Make sure you ask yourself this question as well.  You never know what God is looking to do in your heart today.

Today’s Question is…

What does it mean to be last?

When Jesus said that those that would lead will have to become last, what did He mean?  How do we become last in a society that sees leadership as being first?  And maybe most importantly, how did Jesus become last?

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Keeping Leadership Christ-Centered

If you’re keeping up with Christian leadership literature then you’ll notice a certain trend towards the denunciation of business leadership principles mingling with the practices of the church.

Led by writers such as Leonard Sweet, who won’t even refer to leadership in the Christian context as leadership, these writers, church leaders, and philosophers seem to have one major goal in mind:  to purge the church of outside influences and bring “leadership” back into it’s Christian context.

While I often don’t agree with the kind of rhetoric these writers are using or the points they use to make these arguments, I have to say that they are on to something.

We have to keep Christian leadership “Christian.”

There’s no doubt that Jesus called us to be different when it comes to things like using power and leading other people (actually, serving other people).  This is part of Jesus‘ way to turn the world on it’s head.  In many ways, Christian leadership is very different from other leadership; but in other ways, it’s not, or doesn’t have to be.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that it’s not always easy to differentiate between the two styles of leading.  If we’re trying to determine how to teach our students to be Christian leaders, and to avoid certain leadership practices that aren’t godly, the differentiation isn’t always cut-and-dry; it certainly isn’t as easy as some authors would have you believe.

So how do we keep on the path of Christ-Centered leadership?  When we’re testing a leadership principle for it’s Christ-centeredness, we should look at the following areas.

 

Pray

It seems simple, but the first thing we should do is pray and ask God if the leadership principal in question is of Him or of the world.

 

WWJD

Cliche, but right.  We should always be asking ourself if Jesus would lead like that.  Better yet, read your scripture and see if Jesus did lead like that.

 

Power Test

Does a leadership principle leverage your power against another person?  If so, It’s a safe bet that it’s not Christian.  Jesus calls us to be meek, and to serve those around we lead, not to wield our power to get them to do things.

 

Who Benefits?

Does this leadership principal benefit you, or the kingdom?  Leadership that benefits you usually isn’t leadership at all, but some form of wielded power for personal benefit.  If other people benefit, that’s fine, but ultimately, if it’s Christian leadership, the Kingdom of God benefits.

 

Pragmatic or Idealogical?

Is what you’re doing the easy way; the way that works, or is it based on a biblical principle.  We all want the easy way out, but the easy way is often not the right way.  If it seems to easy to be good, it probably is.

It’s not easy to stay Christ-centered in any part of life, and leadership is no exemption.  But if you stay prayerful, intentional, vigilant, God will show you His way of leadership.

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One Question Wednesday: Love

Welcome to One Question Wednesdays.

Today all we want to do is offer you a question that will help your students grow closer to Jesus, learn more about themselves, and develop the gift and calling of leadership that God has given them.

Use this question as a prompt for a devotion, an introduction to a lesson, or as a discussion topic whenever you meet with your students collectively or individually.  These questions make great mentoring prompts.

Make sure you ask yourself this question as well.  You never know what God is looking to do in your heart today.

Today’s Question Is:

Do You Love Others As You Love Yourself?

As the second part of the royal command, this is a very important question.  Of course, if we look hard enough the answer will almost always be no, but asking the question and examining our lives for evidence of love can also drive us to our knees to ask God to help us love more.

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